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It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.
Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:
They could be too old.
Some men think they are too fat.
They could be too short.
Some men think they are too ugly.
These men feel as if they are in a weak position, when it comes to attracting the women they desire, because of these.
However, it is not true.
We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.
Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.
All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn’t the case.
As a general rule of thumb, I like to say: It’s important to look good, but it’s not important to be good looking!
How is there a difference?
Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.
Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.
Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.
Myth #2 – Women and Men Think Alike
It’s natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.
Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.
You can see it plainly, while others may not notice it at all.
When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You’re able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?
By nature, you think a woman sizes you up in the same manner as you do her.
This assumption is a mistake.
Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.
A womans attraction bases itself around how a man makes them feel, rather than how a man might look. This is why social status and confidence attract women. Men who make them laugh, they find attractive. Being good at what you do attracts women. Try to understand how this works. For women, looks have very little to do with all of this.
Myth #3 – Women Notice Men’s Insecurities
Keep in mind that we know our own self, better than anyone ever will. We see all our flaws, such as our large noses and ears, a weak chin or receding hairline.
We see it, no matter what it is.
Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.
Do you know that most women are not aware of your insecurities and only notice them when you call their attention to them? So forget about your insecurities rather than trying to diffuse or dismiss them by calling the attention of others as to why you may think you are ugly.
Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.
It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.
Myth #4 – Attractive Men Have It Easy
This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls will automatically flock to him.
Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.
Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.
If a woman meets a man who matches her physical type, she is attracted to him, since her preference of features brings her enjoyment. Nevertheless, if the man is incompatible, boring or a jerk, her feelings will vanish.
Do you know that a woman may not at first find a man to be physically attractive and then somehow experience thrilling fun and pleasure; she will become attracted to him in time?
Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.
Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.
The second part of connect with women is generating sexual attraction.
This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.
This aspect naturally leads to seduction.
As you lead a woman towards sexual attraction, she begins seeing you in a new perspective, despite your shortcomings or looks.
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